The Thing About Arguments…
is that it forms part of the package of maintaining a healthy relationship, you don’t have arguments, you don’t have a relationship or at least not for long. So don’t fool yourself into thinking that no arguments means a lasting relationship.
It doesn’t matter what it is about; money, job pressure, children, or my personal favorite “that one time you left a dirty sock on the floor and it reminded her of the time your told her she is acting like her mother”.
Arguments form the backbone of relationships because it allows a pressure release in a controlled way, more so it allows both parties to air unconscious habits that they can reflect on. But I have some tips about arguments for the men, and this could actually work for women too.
ADMIT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.
I can guarantee you in every situation that you will always have a part to play (it is extremely rare that it is completely one person and not the other), do not play the blame game; it doesn’t help anyone especially your own personal growth.
You know that famous Spiderman quote:
“with great power comes great responsibility”
Well think of it the other way round
“with great responsibility comes great power”
The higher responsibility you hold in any given situation the better your ability to change the outcome, and then you have the power to change it for the better. Remember your not arguing to win, your are arguing to find solutions and in the best of cases integrate the shadow parts of yourself.
It then becomes easier to see yourself as a solution to the problem and handle it like a man, which your woman will greatly appreciate.
I am also not saying you have the take the blame for everything (which will just weaken you in the eyes of your woman), I am saying take responsibility which strengthens your ability to respond and fix the problem.
This will also help your confidence dramatically, because then you are starting to adopt the archetype of the King, which is what you should be aiming to be; be the King to her Queen, and it’s your responsibility to make sure it happens for the both of you.